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That Seemingly Impossible Situation (My Story:Part 3)

This image shows a Intensive Care Unit.

Intensive Care Unit


As I surveyed the walls around me, I realized I survived and I was obviously in an ICU room somewhere. Did my baby make it? Was the other driver hurt? I tried to move. My body was strapped to the bed, my neck was in a brace, and I was connected to a respirator. What happened to me? Am I paralyzed? I want to see my family. At that moment, my sister entered the room. She leaned over and started speaking wonderful things to me, but…but…no one had answered my questions. I could not speak. Oh, yes! Brenna, my sister, and I learned to sign the alphabet as children. Our deaf cousin taught us. Brenna noticed my fingers moving on the side of my bed.

“No one told you. Avery is alive! No! You are not paralyzed. They are just going to run more tests on you.”

Relief. Joy. Anxiousness. I wanted to go home now. I signed some more questions. “Brenna, how do I look?”

Being a loving sister, she did not lie. “You look pretty bad, Brooke.”

With absolute frustration that she did not make up something, like “beautiful,” I shamefully signed to my sister, “shut-up.” She ran out of the room crying. Brenna later told me that it was at that moment that she had peace that I was going to be okay. What can better reflect the unconditional love of the Lord toward us than the love of family?

Brooke, recovering well, and little Lindy

Entering the room next, my dear friend and neighbor and the wife of the music minister from our church brought the love of Christ. Being deaf, my friend also interpreted easily my finger spelling. From Angela, I learned much of the story of the accident…permitted by my Sovereign God. After blowing through a stop sign and driving straight into my lane, the other motorist walked away uninjured. She attempted to lie at the accident scene, was the same age as me (29), and she did not profess a relationship with Jesus Christ. For some reason, I repeated this question to everyone, “Does that lady know Jesus?”

Once the doctors of Duke University Medical center spoke with me, they conveyed that I would be in recovery for a long time and in the hospital for weeks or even months. My nose was concave, and my right foot was crushed with the surgery required likened to putting together pieces of a puzzle. The medical team also told me I may never walk without assistance, but my age, not being a smoker, or a drinker, all helped. People everywhere prayed. Letters poured into the hospital from around the world. Within two weeks, I left the hospital on crutches, without Avery at this time. But my healing accelerated. God answered prayers! Within 6 months, I danced in a recital with a group of ladies in an act of worship to God. One year later, I water-skied. Now, I must confess, I would not attempt skiing again, but I did it once…to the glory of God!!!! God chose to heal me, for His purposes, and His plans. But what about Avery? What did God choose for her? What would be next for Avery?

Avery Christian Stark

Dear friends, God is a mighty Deliverer. Jesus is Healer. He heals today. “The LORD is good,  A stronghold in the day of trouble; And He knows those who trust in Him” (Nahum 1:7). Please persist in prayer because God displays His power through our prayers. Sometimes, our prayers are not answered in the way that we desire, but sometimes our magnificent God “who by the power at work within us is able to accomplish abundantly far more than all we can ask or imagine,” (Ephesians 3:20) answers prayers in ways we could never foresee. Do not stop praying for that seemingly impossible situation.

Victory or Defeat? (My Story: Part 2)

As I turned out of my neighborhood, I prayed and thanked the Lord for the day ahead. My husband and daughter were traveling a bit behind me with the crafts I had worked so hard on painting in the weeks prior to the sunny Saturday morning in November. Avery Christian, our second daughter, may be born today. “Oh, Lord, I would just love to get through the Christmas craft show at the seminary today before I deliver this baby. How are these girls going to do on the mission field in a Muslim country, dear Lord? Please keep leading our little family into your perfect will.”

“OH, MY…” BAM!!!! I saw the car in my lane and heard the loudest boom I have ever heard. I slammed the brakes, and felt my body sling forward. I could not finish my sentence. The weight of the car caved in on my pregnant body. I felt pain in my foot, and throughout my face. “I am pregnant. Someone! I am pregnant!” A man entered the car from the back seat. He held my head still. I heard my husband’s voice, “Brooke, Brooke, it is going to be okay. Tell me your name. Tell me your address. Stay calm.” “Brooke Stark. The baby!” “Help is on its way. I love you.”

In my mind, I knew that it was bad. Inside, I felt a deep sadness thinking I may never see my unborn child, I may never watch my other daughter grow up, and I may not spend more years with my husband. Yet, I knew where I was going. I knew I was going home to be with Jesus. Was this all He had for me in this life? My heart was flooded with peace, as if the Holy Spirit was hugging me from the inside-out. I could see the man cutting me from the car. “Praise the Lord. He did send help.” I heard the helicopter. I was moving. I hurt. I was not afraid. God gave me the “peace that passes understanding (Philippians 4:7).” We were flying. I heard them talking about stopping the bleeding. I was dying. Our baby was dying. I might see Jesus today. All became dark.

Fourteen units of blood, an emergency C-section, 2 reconstructive facial surgeries, and a heel replacement later, I am who I am today. “His mercies are new every morning” and “great is His faithfulness.” Fortunately, God does not allow all of us to go through scenes like I did. For some, they experience far worse, and many never go through crisis. However, we all suffer in different ways. We all have days that are not what we expected when we wake up and roll out of bed.

Brooke and Burwell 2010

Why do I write this scene on my blog today? I pray it serves as a reminder to the reader that we are to live in the present, not in the future, not in the past. A dear friend told me once, that I wanted to receive God’s grace for the future, which is a product of worry.  I needed to stop striving in that way. God promises His grace for today, for that given situation, for that moment. He says, “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid” (John 14:27). We should not live in fear, nor worry. God is able and willing to take our burdens and grant us peace…in the moment we need it…not before…not after.

Also, we are not to take for granted the gift of today. Focus on today, dear friend. Scripture is clear that we should “not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” (Matthew 6:34). Trust that God hears your prayers and He is completely in charge of your life…every moment of the day. I am still learning these lessons, that God is all-knowing and all-powerful and that He will give us what we need when we need it. As a believer in Christ, I cannot explain how He does it, but I can testify that He is big enough to give what you need for victory, not defeat, in your particular situation. Just ask Him.

Forgiveness: (My Story-Part 1)

Avery and Lindy

As the young man dreamed of the birth of his second daughter, due for delivery in just six days, he drove his car around the corner, and in horror, found his pregnant wife slumped over the steering wheel of her totaled car. He reacted as he should, not overly emotional, thinking quickly. Soon, he stood with their 14-month-old first born daughter in his arms, and watched his wife freed from the crushed vehicle with the Jaws of Life. After his wife was life-flighted to one of the top national hospitals, he met with teams of doctors who told him that neither his wife nor his baby may survive.

Why did that other young woman drive through the stop sign at such a high speed? Why did she lie at the accident scene? Thankfully, the police officer confronted her and assessed the scenario correctly. How did she walk away without a scratch when he might lose half his family? How can he forgive her choices of using and distributing drugs when the results impacted his family so tragically? My husband, Burwell, faced these questions in 1999 as he assisted me in recovery from this horrid auto accident. The same questions resurfaced when our daughter, Avery, who suffered traumatic brain injury due to loss of oxygen when my placenta ruptured during the crash, passed away in 2003. If anyone deserved his anger, it should be that woman.

In the Bible, God tells us in Romans 12:17-21 “not to repay anyone evil for evil,” “not to take revenge,” and not to be “overcome by evil.” But how does one truly forgive? Why forgive? What does forgiveness look like?

Burwell and I learned that we all have to take the same steps toward forgiveness, no matter what the offense. A seminary professor, I know, states that it is often easier to forgive the big offenses, and hold onto the smaller things. While there is much truth in this statement, I personally struggled and watched Burwell struggle the most with this large hurt, resulting in the loss of our daughter’s life, and ending many of our own dreams. So, why do we forgive? The answer is simple to comprehend, but hard to apply. We forgive others because Jesus forgave us (John 3:16). God also requires that we forgive in order to be forgiven (Matthew 5:23-24). In this passage, the Lord tells us to go and reconcile with our brother before placing our gift on the altar.

While it is necessary that we forgive permanently (I Corinthians 13:5), it is not an easy process to surrender our desire to get even. Forgiveness is so undeserved. No one deserves forgiveness in Christ, nor does anyone earn forgiveness in Him. He gives it freely. The Lord also gives His children the power to forgive others. It happens through clear and honest confession and communication with Him. In other words, through prayer: talking to God, and hearing from God through the reading of His Word. Often, we need help with forgiving others from fellow Christians. We need others to pray for us, or we need to be able to speak with trusted Christians who will direct us with wise counsel.

Hebrews 12: 14-15 instructs us to “make every effort to live at peace with all men and to be holy…to see to it that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble.”  The goal of forgiveness is peace and reconciliation. Sometimes, however, this is not possible. Once “every effort” for peace is made, you can rest in God as the only One who has the authority to forgive sins, He is fair and just. He can be trusted with our deepest sufferings, our most painful wounds, and every offense.

Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for forgiveness in your Son. Please forgive me when I hold onto bitterness and anger toward those who have wounded me. Please grant me Your heart of forgiveness toward that person or those persons. Please help me to take the steps You wish me to make toward reconciliation. May You be glorified in my thoughts, speech and actions today and always. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.